A Fat Man's Journey (Working my way back…)

An Attempt to Journey from Fat to Fit in a Lifetime. Eat right, Eat less, Move more

Birthday Weekend

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52-years old

I turn 52 very soon. Hooray.

I am not a “Birthday Person”. I recognize that having a birthday is better than NOT having a birthday but I am not a celebrator of the day.

That said… I do have some things that are worth remarking on. On my birthday last year I weighed 268.6 pounds. This year I will come in at right about 200, give or take a couple of pounds.

Last year at this time I rode a ten-mile ride and thought I would pass out by the time I got home. This afternoon and tomorrow I plan to get in rides of 30 miles each.

My New Bike.  First 30 mile ride on it should be later today....

My New Bike. First 30 mile ride on it should be later today….

When I turned 50 I wondered if I would make it to 51. Making it to 52 was not even in my mind. It took me 9 months after my fiftieth birthday to actually start to do something about my poor health, obesity and poor fitness.

So my birthday weekend. This time I am not surprised to reach it.

I DO NOT LOOK OLD (and if I do, so what)

Recently I posted a picture of myself on FaceBook and someone had some very negative things to say about my appearance. The person said I looked old and sickly due to the weight loss and that I should put some of the weight back on to fill out my face…

Taken with an iPhone, not a very good picture I agree....

Taken with an iPhone, not a very good picture I agree….  And it was taken in a moving vehicle….  BUT OLD AND SICKLY???


Not happening.

1) I disagree. I do not think I look either old or sickly and several friends have said that I look younger than when I carried around an extra 100+ pounds of me.

2) Even if I have sacrificed youthful looks for a healthier body I am happy with the trade. I would rather look old and feel young then look young and be waiting for the heart attack.

At my age it is not surprising that not all of the skin has tightened up with the weight loss. Much has. Not all. It is true that I have a few wrinkles that are more obvious now that the skin is not all pumped out with fat.

I am not at all bothered by it.

I am happy that I can ride my bike for 30 miles, 50 miles, 100 miles. I am happy that I can see my feet looking straight down. I am happy that I can cross my legs. I can hike. I can climb stairs. I can run, jump…

I am more than happy to say HEY LOOK AT THE WRINKLES that were hidden by the fat.

I didn’t lose the weight for looks. I lost the weight for life.

Do What you love and you will never work a day in your life

“I have to get in the work”. That is how a friend referred to exercise. The odd thing is it surprised me to hear it referred to as work. To me it is not work. It is fun. It is play. I go for a hike, a walk, a bike ride… Fun, not work. I even miss the treadmill at the hotels…

I am disappointed if the weather or other events prevent me from getting out to do the things I love to do: walk, hike, ride…..

I love the fitness and I love pushing myself past what I thought I could do. That is fun. That is play. Not work.

Just a thought…

“I have to get in the work”. That is how a friend referred to exercise. The odd thing is it surprised me to hear it referred to as work. To me it is not work. It is fun. It is play. I go for a hike, a walk, a bike ride… Fun, not work. I even miss the treadmill at the hotels…

I am disappointed if the weather or other events prevent me from getting out to do the things I love to do: walk, hike, ride…..

“I have to get in the work”. That is how a friend referred to exercise. The odd thing is it surprised me to hear it referred to as work. To me it is not work. It is fun. It is play. I go for a hike, a walk, a bike ride… Fun, not work. I even miss the treadmill at the hotels…

I am disappointed if the weather or other events prevent me from getting out to do the things I love to do: walk, hike, ride…..

Plans Beyond the Bike Rides

So I will get in the rides if all goes well. This afternoon and then again as I said, tomorrow.

Tomorrow night Missus and I hope to be sharing dinner with our friends MT and LG. Indian. Our new GO-TO food. We can be sure of nutritious and delicious vegetarian fare. Always good to share food with friends.

Monday night Missus is making me a cake because the Younger One insists that it is not a birthday without cake. I will have a VERY thin piece but I will have it. I did it last year and survived. This year it should work out the same.

If I am not careful I may grow to like these birthdays.

Still Searching

I am still searching for the me that I must be now. I am sure I am wearing my friends out with the fitness and eat right conversations. I just seem to fall back to it. I have much more about me to talk about and much more about them and the world to talk about but I continually fall back to the weight loss and fitness. It is as though I need to keep reminding ME that it is real. I still have a way to go before I am comfortable in my skin I guess. Comfortable enough and confident enough for it to move to the back ground. I still feel (emotionally) like a fat man. I need to remind myself that I am not. Still searching.

Peace

9 thoughts on “Birthday Weekend

  1. Some people do look older with less fat. My neighbor, for example. I haven’t seen her up close since last fall, thanks to our respective work schedules. But when I saw her the other day, my first thought was, “Wow, she has lost a lot of weight! Way to go!” My second thought was that she indeed did look older, but only because the fat isn’t there to fill in the wrinkles. But so what? You can see how much healthier she is. She walks better. She looks healthier. Awesome.

    Maybe your face does look older. But you look great. Awesome job getting from 51 to 52. You will be even better by the time 53 rolls around.

    Nice bike, BTW. Love my Madone. I did eventually have to change seats. Counting the days until the streets are clear enough of snow to ride outside again.

  2. Happy Birthday in advance. I hope you have a ‘fun’ weekend. Old??????? I don’t think so. Just saying!

  3. People are just used to seeing you thicker, it doesn’t mean that you actually look older. It just means that their brains are trying to understand what it means to see less of your roundness and oftentimes, their brains will equate that with “looking older”. That’s my opinion anyway. Oftentimes, people that have had a lot of weight for years will be told they have lost too much weight. That they look sickly. Again, that’s just THEIR brain not able to process the changes that they see in you.

    You’re right. Ignore them. Talk about what’s important to you–if it keeps you on track for being healthy, they should embrace you. If not, perhaps they were part of the problem in the first place?

    Anyway, I think you look fabulous–but then again–this is the only YOU that I’ve ever “known”. 🙂 So, keep it up, and thanks for the motivation this morning. I needed a little kick to get going. MUCH appreciated!

  4. By the way, nice friggin’ Madone.

  5. Happy birthday! I agree with Sandra and was thinking the same thing as I was reading your post. You don’t look old and sickly. Your friends just aren’t used to seeing you so healthy and it will take time for them to get used to it. I had similar problems with my friends and family. Now they don’t seem to even notice anymore because it’s been so long since the weight came off.

  6. Just celebrated my 59th birthday yesterday. Losing weight definitely changes your appearance,wrinkles included. I translate more wrinkles as healthier but aging IS about wrinkles. We have such denial in this country about aging and I refuse to pander to it. You have grown in wisdom Mark and share it generously.

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